"Bad boys, soft life and used girls"

" Bad boys, soft life and used girls \r\n\r\n\u201cDear mothers, my dear sisters and daughters, this ugly trend is heartrending. It\u2019s not a matter we can invite the police into or a case we can prove in court.\u201d\r\n\r\nRemember the good old days of Finance Houses in Nigeria? Our young men achieved success overnight. One minute they were marketing officers and the next, they were on management floor. Those places were real magic places. And you know how young men who come into money early run things. They simply remember their long gone ancestor, the prodigal son in the Bible. Exactly.\r\n\r\nThey lived large and spent money like it was going out of fashion. The set-up of the Finance Houses didn\u2019t help matter much either. They paid more attention to glamour than the deposits. Their buildings were chrome and glass. The new rich boys dressed in the best of the season. Or have you forgotten that that was when such expressions as \u2018power dresser,\u2019 \u2018yuppies\u2019 and \u2018upwardly mobile\u2019 joined our lexicon?\r\n\r\nThose were the magical days when the streets were full of 26-years old green horns who became treasury managers straight after doing their NYSC year in remote farm settlements.\r\n The flashy guys with no defined business address are back in town and it\u2019s so easy to fall for them. Fortunately, there are signs and characteristics that set apart this breed of men. \r\nThey drove Daewoo Racer, Daewoo Espero, Hyundai Excel, Sonata .Then, affairs were straight from best sellers, complete with expensive perfumes, chic restaurants and weekend trips. Husbands performed their God-given roles and wives did their wifely duties. Girls milled around the glamour boys. The boys picked, chose and discarded as they wanted. Yes, they were spoiled for choice. Shameless desperate uncivilized girls fought over them in public places. But it was fun and dance for the lucky ones. But you know how it is with things that are too good to be true. The Finance Houses soon fizzled out, collapsed like a pack of cards.\r\n\r\nSuddenly, the big salaries and posh cars disappeared. Some of the directors of the glass and chrome offices were declared missing or wanted or both.\r\n\r\nThe fine girls left the fine boyfriends who no longer had enough money to give them. Engagement rings were returned or kept as \u2018retirement benefit.\u2019\r\n\r\nThe search for Mr Right, who dwelled in greener pastures resumed. The home girls were wary. The fast-lane ones worried about how soon the easy life would return, when things would return to normal and the days would be lit again?\r\n\r\nTheir prayers soon got answered as resourceful Nigerian blokes came up with new tricks. There was advance fee fraud (419), armed robbery, Otokoto and now yahoo, yahoo plus and yahoo plus plus.\r\n\r\nThe bad fast girls were back in business. All that mattered was the posh cars and bright lights. Who cares where the money came from?\r\n\r\nWith careless, greedy mothers all over the place scheming and swindling, more and more of our girls are today falling into deadly traps and becoming raw materials for diabolical concoction of desperate get-rich-or-die-trying boys. These days, you wake up to one stranger-than-fiction story or the other. A young pretty girl the other day alighted from a cab and stripped herself naked in broad daylight. Another one has been menstruating since she returned from a \u2018baecation\u2019 in South Africa with her young \u2018Boo\u2019 who has since dumped her.\r\n\r\nDid that leave you shaken? I was covered in goose bumps when I heard the story. And this is just half of it. Occasionally these days, when I see a fine babe swinging her waist, I ask myself, is she still whole or she has been used? Imagine buying a basket of big snails and finding that they are just health brown on the outside but empty shells.\r\n\r\nDear mothers, my dear sisters and daughters, this ugly trend is heartrending. It\u2019s not a matter we can invite the police into or a case we can prove in court but it is a present palpable evil. The mean glamorous, fun-loving, sleek man doesn\u2019t even look like the mean things he\u2019s capable of but the polished look is only skin-deep, for the discerning, that is. He talks and drives like an Italian.\r\n\r\nHis money is not inherited or from a long chain of family business. His money is his. Ask yourself how he made so much at age 30. Are his decent parents also dazed at the rate at which their son \u2018arrived\u2019 suddenly?\r\n\r\nHe most likely belongs to many societies and clubs that on the surface look like social associations. But they are cults. He is too far gone to consider leaving. His blood brothers are his lifeline.\r\n Then, what\u2019s the worth of all the glamour dollars and pounds sterling if you can be dead or widowed at age 25 or worse still, end up an empty shell, walking corpse designed to move from one disappointment and failed venture to another? \r\nHe owes them and his life is in danger if he betrays the oath.\r\n\r\nGirls who flock around him are taking big risks and if you are involved, you need all the luck you can be wished. This dude may offer you his kind of romance and glamour. He may spoil you with money. But remember he may also be cut down in his prime.\r\n\r\nHis brains may get spilled all over your bedroom wall in the middle of the night. His offended blood brothers may send goons after him. His cult may ask for your blood for the next sacrifice.\r\n\r\nYou may end up as accessory after murder. Whichever way you look at it, greedy girls who flock around men of questionable income are not likely to end up well.\r\n\r\nThen, what\u2019s the worth of all the glamour dollars and pounds sterling if you can be dead or widowed at age 25 or worse still, end up an empty shell, walking corpse designed to move from one disappointment and failed venture to another?"

"Bad boys, soft life and used girls"

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